“What’s the point in thinking about 2020? Nothing’s ever going to change for me.”
I believe it’s healthy to have a certain amount of skepticism and to look at things critically.
So, I’m not down on anyone that feels that way.
But know it or not, this is already indicative of resignation and cynicism.
If at any point you’ve asked yourself why you should set goals, plan your year, spend time in study, do any kind of thinking or reflecting — that’s indicative of resignation and cynicism too.
If you’ve been asking yourself why you’d even bother creating another New Year’s Resolution, it’s the same thing.
I know many people, who after a certain age, just gave up on New Year’s Resolutions.
You’re not wrong for having any of these thoughts.
But it’s important to understand that if you’re not going to be actively seeking out inspiration, setting goals or creating a strategy for their achievement, you’ve already given up.
There’s nothing wrong with giving up, but if you’re not doing it consciously, you’re doing it by default.
As you can imagine, that’s a dangerous place to be.
2020 by default will be just another year for you.
So, what is cynicism and resignation pointing to?
If we can understand resignation and cynicism at a deeper level, we can do something about it.
Here’s what you need to know:
Resignation & Cynicism Comes from Past Hurts
Anybody who says they haven’t experienced any tough or difficult moments in their life is lying.
There isn’t any empirical way to define the degree of difficulty anyone experienced.
But one thing we know for sure is that these challenges, for better and for worse, have contributed to who you are and how you’re showing up in the world.
The more aware you are of the events that have impacted your attitude towards life, the better equipped you will be to step outside your default way of being and create yourself as you want to be.
You Can Identify Areas of Your Life Where You’ve Given Up
If there’s any part of your work that’s showing up as pointless, meaningless or worthless, it’s likely because you’re given up in that area.
Maybe you’re tired of reaching out to venues to book gigs.
Maybe you’re frustrated with creating industry connections.
It could be that you don’t see any value in posting to social media one more time when your following is so small.
Are you starting to see some areas where you’re given up?
Keep in mind that the only reason you’ve given up on anything is because you’ve had a bad experience with it in the past.
If you were still a child, you wouldn’t be given up on anything, because you knew, deep down, you could achieve whatever you set your mind to.
You can’t be resigned and cynical about anything you don’t have experience with.
You Can Have the Biggest Breakthroughs in Areas Where You’re Given Up
This is the part that a lot of people miss and don’t understand.
We all have pain points in our lives.
But human nature is to run towards pleasure or comfort and run away from pain.
So, even when something unwanted persists in our lives, our best solution, much of the time, is avoidance.
The truth is, that pain is pointing to an area where you can have a breakthrough.
There are likely areas of your life where everything is going great — this suggests that while incremental improvement may be possible in these areas, there are no breakthroughs to be had right now.
Breakthrough is going to come from addressing your pain.
Your pain might seem separate from your passion, but it’s not, because any area of life that’s gnawing at you steals from resources you could be dedicating to areas that are important to you.
Said another way, resignation and cynicism is pointing to an area of your life where massive improvement is possible — but it all depends on your willingness to address that area of your life.
Will You Deal with the Pain?
Pain is just letting you know what you need to deal with.
When you deal with it, you’re going to achieve more freedom in your life.
If you don’t deal with it, then you can expect to live with it. You can expect it to show up at the least opportune moments.
It will dictate your attitude towards life, as well as the behavior that stems from it.
This is the insanity many of us are living in.
Choose breakthrough over pain.