Haters gonna hate, right?
You could go out on a limb to create your life’s best work and market it to the masses only to get barraged by childish, lazy skepticism and criticism. Does it mean you should give up?
No way. The books I read say that troubles and tribulations are practically a guarantee. You will inevitably run into some walls as you build your career or business.
It can be discouraging — there’s no denying that. But withholding retaliation, holding your ground and keeping your faith might just change the opinion of those who currently oppose you. They might see you or your creations in a new light. Even if not, you can at least keep your dignity by refusing to get involved in unnecessary drama.
What many people don’t realize is that the path to success practically requires failure. You must fail, learn from your mistakes, iterate and aim for progressive improvement. You shouldn’t fail for failure’s sake, but your path is likely to contain a few obstacles and trials.
You must take action. You must become a doer. Action is the only known cure for fear. It’s also one of the key factors that will separate you from the pack.
Talent, ability and even knowledge can’t outmatch a hardworking, action-taking person. Winners act and learn from their failures — losers are too afraid to try. And, when they do mess up, they blame other people and circumstances. Worse yet, they stop trying.
If you find yourself on the brunt end of unwanted, unsolicited, unnecessary or inordinate criticism, here are some important things to remember.
Negativity and Skepticism Epitomize Laziness
Don’t pay too much attention to the peanut gallery — they probably aren’t doing anything of note with their lives anyway.
People who criticize what they haven’t taken the time to understand are just plain lazy. It’s easy to make fun of or criticize what you haven’t properly researched. You don’t know what you don’t know.
Winners try to find the merit in everything — losers are negative even when it’s uncalled for.
Constructive Criticism is in Scarce Supply
If people always offered constructive feedback, we wouldn’t have this problem. It takes effort to think and to make worthwhile suggestions. It takes effort to add value.
Unfortunately, short-form, out-of-context interaction is becoming more pervasive with the rise of texting and social media. People who mindlessly post “this sucks” on every blog post you write clearly aren’t invested in what you’re doing. It’s best to let it be.
Winners look for ways to add value and to be a part of the solution — losers are only interested in their own affairs and in looking good.
Objection & Rejection — Two Different Things
People might object to your business concepts. They may not like what you have to say. That doesn’t necessarily mean they are negative. Skepticism can be constructive if the skeptic is seeking relevant answers to make a more informed decision.
Objections should not be equated with personal rejection. People may not like what you do, but that doesn’t mean that they don’t like you. Don’t take yourself or matters too seriously if that is the case.
Winners ask meaningful questions that lead people on the right path — losers regularly resort to empty blanket statements.
There Will Always be Dream-Stealers and Nay-Sayers
As you begin to make progress towards your goals and dreams, there will be those who will try to distract you and pull you away from your priorities. They want to be excited and fired up about their life as much as you are, but unfortunately, they have too much personal baggage to believe that they could ever accomplish more in life.
You may have to consciously spend less time with these people. You don’t have to cut them out of your life, but their intentions are unproductive at best, harmful at worst.
Winners strive to help others reach their goals and realize their dreams — losers are only interested in their own security.
Ultimately, no one is a loser or a winner. We can all become what we make up our minds to be.
But in this age of disconnection, people tend to forget there are real people striving for greatness on the other end of their comments. Criticism can come from anywhere at any time. It’s how we handle that criticism that counts.
Doers might run up against more criticism than talkers, but that’s why I like associating with them. Perseverance is not an option for them. They’ve already decided for themselves that their vision is worthwhile. It’s inspiring to watch as they pick themselves up after a battle and keep going.