In a world where it’s so easy to see what others have accomplished, you can easily feel insecure about your own achievements.
We all have a tendency to compare our worst moments to someone else’s highlight reels, which can lead to misery and agony.
This is unnecessary. If we find it in ourselves to appreciate ourselves and those around us, we can eliminate unhappiness. Happiness is available now.
What if There Was Nobody Else to Compare Yourself to?
Just imagine for a moment: If there was no one else living on this planet and you had no one to compare yourself to, how would you feel?
You might feel lonely. You might feel sad.
But there would be no reason to feel a lack of self-confidence. After all, you would be unique! There would be no one else like you. You would feel free.
But hold on a minute. There isn’t anyone else like you already. Just consider this quote from Deepak Chopra:
Each of us is a unique strand in the intricate web of life and here to make a contribution.
You have a unique contribution to make to the world, though it’s possible you haven’t identified your purpose yet.
So, Why do we Compare?
Comparison is linked to insecurity and fear. It’s the idea that some people are better than you and some people are worse than you. After all, the only way to compare is to lift some and diminish others.
If some people are better than you, then there are certainly some that are worse than you. Forcing everyone into your own self-constructed hierarchy is arrogant.
We compare because our ego prompts us to compare. When we identify as our ego, we only pay attention to surface-level matters. Everything becomes about who we are and where we stand relative to others. It becomes about looking good and avoiding looking bad.
Our ego is not our identity.