Who do you listen to?
If there’s something you’re looking to achieve, you should listen to those who have the results you want. They can teach you how to do the same.
Does this sound familiar? This is what I was taught as part of my business training, and it seems to make sense.
But I’ve identified some problems with it.
One, people who’ve achieved a degree of success aren’t always the best teachers. Teaching is not part of their training or isn’t an innate talent of theirs. They sometimes have trouble breaking difficult concepts down into simple steps anyone could take. They leave their students puzzled.
A good teacher can relay important information regardless of what they’ve accomplished. If you claim to have learned anything in school, you are proof positive that people without results can teach you something valuable. I’m not saying all teachers don’t know how to get results for themselves, but they tend to be more familiar with the theory behind the process than the process itself.
Two, people who’ve achieved a degree of success don’t always tell you what their secrets are. Their business model relies on selling their next eBook, course, webinar, or workshop, so their sales message always says something along the lines of, “Did you see results with the method I just taught you? Wait until you see what’s next…” They’ll keep stringing you along as long as they have something to sell.
Some experts — and I use that term loosely here — openly share their results on their blogs or podcasts, and the exact process they used to achieve those results, all for free. Great information is at your fingertips, but human psychology dictates that we place more value on information we pay for than information we can access anywhere, anytime.
Three, people who’ve achieved a degree of success still say, “you should do what works for you”, suggesting that their method may not produce results for you. It makes perfect sense to say that from a business perspective, because no teacher wants to be accused of making false claims, but it still points to the fact that following someone like that isn’t a fail-proof method to reaching your desired objectives.
I’ve personally tried a lot of things that didn’t work for me. It brought me to the point where I had little choice but to build a business around what brought me fulfillment. After doing that for a while, I recognized the fact that: a) I was happier, b) I was making more money, and c) I had more flexibility in my schedule. And once I saw that, I didn’t see any point in going back.
Four, sometimes people who’ve achieved a degree of success have no idea what made them successful in the first place. Yes, they may be able to show you the steps they took to get to where they are, but they may not be aware of exactly what they did that led to those results. That leaves you guessing what aspect of your teacher you should emulate.
Some teachers are good at relaying just the facts, leaving you to make the decision as to what your next steps are. They may know a lot of things so-called “experts” don’t, because they’ve put considerable time into research and study. A good teacher is good at fostering independent thought and not crushing it.
Who do you listen to? You should listen to someone that motivates you.
If you do something you love, you’ll work harder and persist longer in it.
In much the same way, if you follow a specific coach or teacher that you like, you’ll be more likely to act, and action is often the difference between someone who sees results and someone who doesn’t. Some action is better than no action.