With vague (but pleasant) memories of a city I visited three years ago, I set off.
The two-week break would give me ample time to see if some of that magic from summer 2017 could be recaptured.
And most importantly, it would allow me to catch up on the rest I desperately needed.
Here’s what I learned on my time away.
If You Need to Rest, Rest
I knew I needed a break, which is why I went to Vernon in the first place.
When I arrived, though, I realized I was more exhausted than I thought. I’d spent a lot of time resting up before leaving, so I figured I would be in better shape than I was.
And that’s why I didn’t do much in Vernon. For the most part, I stayed in bed.
I was going to do more journaling and reading than I ended up doing. And that’s okay. My most pressing questions, nevertheless, were answered. Sometimes in conversation. Sometimes through reflection.
While resting, I still published every day, and the Life Transition series is a result of that. But that was a relatively small part of my day overall and didn’t add any stress to it.
There isn’t much point in trying to get a lot of stuff done when you’re not even in the right mind space to do it.
If you need rest, rest. It’s worth it.
Give Yourself Time to Reflect
There is always something to be gained from stopping and reflecting, even if it’s just walking to the park and back.
If you’re in a frustration cycle right now, then recognize that doing more is just going to add to the big ball of frustration you’ve been building. More action is not going to get you out of it. It’s not the answer.
I’m not saying that stopping and taking a break is a catch-all answer, but it is an elegant solution to a complicated problem.
Elegant because it’s surrender, letting go. It’s as if saying to the universe, “I know this is going on, and I don’t care. I’ve got better things to do.”
Complicated because you can’t get out of a frustration cycle (or any cycle — also known as a pendulum) without interrupting its pattern. Far harder than it sounds, especially if that energy has been building for a while.
The truth is, whatever problems or issues you’re dealing with tend to work themselves out, as if by magic, while you’re busy doing other things.
Why is that?
Because we create our own problems. By putting something on a pedestal in our lives, we end up creating excess potential. The universe always brings balance to areas of our lives where there is excess potential.
During my two-week stay in Vernon, I was stepping away from a frustration cycle myself, and now that I’m back, I’m beginning to find joy in what I’m doing again. I left a pendulum and have no desire of getting back into it.
I want to enter a better feeling space, and then keep moving into another better feeling space.
You can’t do your business or career any harm by stepping away from it for a while. You will always gain something from it.
Do What Brings You Joy
Over the course of the last year or so, I’ve had to get used to a life where I’m not constantly in demand.
While I was still living in Calgary, the emails, texts, messages, and calls were near constant. To where I had to start putting some hard boundaries for communication in place. Because how in the world could I get anything done with constant distraction?
Since I’ve arrived in Abbotsford, though, things have quieted down somewhat. And that’s to be expected, since more people know me in Calgary than they do out here.
I’ve since learned to be with it. And now it feels like a natural step in my unfolding growth.
All that to say, in some ways, I’ve had more free time than I know what to do with. So, I naturally found myself filling it with new projects.
All that extra work, however, didn’t get me anywhere to be honest. It was excess potential at its finest. Instead of getting more done with my main projects, I just ended up with other, less pressing tasks.
It’s altogether too easy to engage in things we’re told we should do (the word “should” usually denotes a duty or obligation). But many of them bring no joy, clutter up our schedule, and don’t add to our overall joy or happiness.
It seems 100% counter-intuitive, but in your business, career, or creative projects, it’s best to engage in what brings you joy. Because life is too short to spend decades on things that kill your soul.
Even When You’re Not in Flow, You Can Still be in Flow
Us ambitious types tend to make some big leaps of logic in terms of what is work, what isn’t, and what ultimately leads to progress in our projects.
“I work 16-hour days, everyday man.”
How much of that is actually work? And, while you can will your way through excess potential for a while, at some point, the universe’s balance correction will swallow you whole. You’ll get sick, have a panic attack, or breakup with your significant other. Something will happen and you won’t be able to will your way through it anymore. Then what?
If you’re wearing excess potential like a badge of honor, it just means you’re a sucker for pain rather than pleasure where pleasure is available.
We tend to put a disproportionate emphasis on action and declare the only time we’re in “flow” is when we’re in action.
In this instance, I’m using the word “flow” to describe progress. Movement towards our goals and dreams.
We vastly underestimate a myriad of things that can help us reach our goals and remain in “flow” — meditation, thinking, reflecting, journaling, reading, mindset, and more.
We tend to look at business and projects linearly, with action as the king. When action is the least important part. Mindset is.
And the truth is, we can be in flow at any moment, whether we’re eating breakfast or chatting with a friend. We only need to intend it.
The two weeks went by in a hurry. But taking time off was the right move. I wouldn’t go back and do it any differently.
Overall, I feel refreshed. I need to get a little more sleep, and it may still be a few weeks before I feel like I’m at 100%, but I’ve come a long way since September.
In terms of business, I am looking at new models. I’m looking at a new publishing plan, as well as ways to incorporate more of my passions throughout each week.
But most importantly, I’m working on The Music Entrepreneur Code. I published the book and the course already, but there is more to come.
Originally published at https://davidandrewwiebe.com on November 20, 2020.